Why Flash Gordon Cannot Finish His Work
Summary - How "Periuk" and "Kerak" explain life
For those who may not recognize the superhero wearing the red mask in the previous entry, he is Flash Gordon, one of the superheroes in comics. He is able to move faster than superman (shown in Smallville).
Imagine, if we were blessed with the ability to move that fast, what do we do with it? I personally will be able to go back to Kedah on a daily basis, Maybe visit each country around the world one every weekend. Finished all my work around the mill in minutes. Wow if only...
Seriously... if I am able to move that fast, do you think I will be able to do everything? No... I will not.
There is a Malay idiom that says - "Lagi besar periuk, lagi besar keraknya", hm I'm not sure what "kerak" is in English. Somebody who knows, please help. It is those burnt rice left stuck to the pot. But generally it means that the more you get, the more it will take from you.
For example, when I am a student, I was given a monthly allowance of RM220 per month. Inflation aside, I was able to enjoy my life even with only RM220. I am still able to go ice skating at Sunway Pyramid once in two weeks. Still able to eat "decent" food, and even gain extra kg.
I was thinking, hmm when I started working, and my salary is within the 4 digit figure. I will live like kings. :) Now that I'm working, I really do live like King... King Kong hahah. (That was before you... dear <-- meant for my wife eheh).
During my bachelor working years, to my surprise, I'm still living from paycheck to paycheck. Not much money to do that round the Malaysia trip I dreamt etc. Of course I had commitments like new bills, the cars, the saving for marriage etc.
The more money I get, the more bills I have to pay, I guess it is because our lifestyle adapt to the changes in our life.
This does not only cover financial changes. Apparently other thing as well, like -
- the more paperwork I finished, the more will pile up by the end of the day.
- my gmail inbox, it seems the more GB of storage I was given, the more spam I received.
Camera 101 - The effect of using flash
Hey, It's Sunday!! sorry, it's Monday...
I was surfing yesterday.. and I found this picture on lowyat.net. It is generally about the difference of exposure when using camera with and without flash. Hope it helps fellow friends interested in cameras.
Labels: sunday
Tips For First Day At Work
Dear friends... For your information, Alfattah will be starting her first day at work this coming Wednesday. And she would appreciate if everyone could give some advice on her first day. Congratulation sis...
Let me start by laying out some lessons I personally learnt during my first day. You probably knew most of them already, but it is in my opinion that important to be repeated
That's why it is called first impression. Only the first one will count. So.. be presentable. Dress suitably, Get enough sleep the day before. If you are excited like I was, you will not be able to sleep anyway, but no worry :)
You must realize that work is work.. It's not like studying. And you are expected to work the first day you reported in, even though people say you can start later. So do some research on what your job scope is (MOST IMPORTANT), Prepare some question to ask on your work. Of course they will allow you some familiarisation period. But seriously you need to show that you are not some student doing practical training. You are there to work. Ask question if you don't understand but please try to research the answer yourself first.
Believe me, the first few month of your work will be very demanding. You are expected to know everything as fast as you can, and in the mean time, all daily task need to be done. So be strong kay. it will get easier.. I promise
Do not be shy, I made a fatal mistake of being a bit shy making friends when I started working. As a result after a year gone by, I still don't know the name of a few of my staff. It's very hard to work with a person if the two of you are strangers to each other. So make friends... Of course you will have to screen them eventually. Not all can be made friend.
As you are the new person, you are allowed to ask their name again should you forget. "Sori ye, tak ingat lah pulak nama, boleh saya tau sekali lagi?"
Make a mental note, you will be surprise with the working culture there. So keep your mind as opened as possible, because if not, you will start to be uncomfortable with everything. You cannot change the culture there on your first day. So go along with it.. For example, you see people got yelled in public because they are late for work... don't freak out just yet. Just nod, and try to be early to avoid that kind of embarassment. observe and adapt... later we'll change the culture
This is the fun part. You will see many people testing you. Yes.. testing you. They want to know what kind of person you are. So be smart with them. observe and listen. You will figure out the type of people in no time. Typically, there will always be
- people who's good
- people who's a suck up
- people who's manipulative
- people who's just plain annoying
After reading all this tips, you may start to be a bit nervous. Don't... actually if you notice, there's no reason to be. All you're doing, is coming to work with an open mind. it is not hard at all to do.
So again, congratulation sis... I pray all the best for you :)
World United Bloggers Award
Today is a historical moment for Immortal Wisdom. This blog had been nominated for World United Blogger Award (WUBA) and is one of the fifteen blogs that won the award. The details can be read here
For your information World United Bloggers pioneered by Dr Ahmed El-Zoghbi @ Sharm with the intention to call bloggers from around the world and share ideas to promote love and peace. More about it in WUB's blog
I am not a member of the organization. And being awarded doesn't mean I will get prize money or anything. But really I'm so touched that a member of the group (a very dear friend of mine - noushy) confidently nominated this newbie blog for the award. For the confidence given I'm forever be grateful.
Seriously, I think the appreciation should be given to all of you who frequent the blog. You had taken the time everyday to click the link to this blog and share your opinion here, saying hi in the shoutbox or just come in to see what's on menu today. I really can't do this without knowing you will be here supporting. So I sincerely thank you.
As you can see from my entries... it is always my intention to try to make a difference to our society by learning from each other. So I humbly requested, if you think that the blog or any entry in it will benefit others (maybe friends or family), please help introducing it to them. I'm not going to be any richer, and I'm not interested to be popular. I just hope we will not repeat the same mistake and maybe be a bit better with every passing day. Amiin....
Labels: Award
Personal Blog - The Hidden Bonus
Summary - Blog as Therapy
Yesterday I visitted one of my friend's blog. He thinks that his blog is not as good as everyone else's. And that everyone else's had either good writing skill or good information in each entry while his is about his daily life and thoughts.
As for me, the whole blogging community is like a buffet restaurant. You can eat anything from the wide variety of food served. I personally will avoid the fish, some may stuff everything in and some will only have that "bubur kacang".`There's just something for everyone. And if the restaurant only serve water (simply because everyone need water), then it wouldn't be a great buffet restaurant now would it? :)
There's really a fan for each category. Whether you write about movies review, your feelings, Islam or politic. There will always be someone out there who like to read it. To find them is totally another story.
However in my opinion, personal blogging is not meant for others to read. Most importantly, it is for you to write. The blog will be a place to let out our feeling. A sanctuary for us to say anything we want about anything. Some bloggers I knew even confess that they are cranky and babbling only in their blog. In real life, they were as cheerful as a cheerleader. This proved that blogging itself is a therapy session.. minus the fees
Conclusion - Never look down on your blog. It is the only corner you have in this world that belong to you. You might not notice, but you are so much livelier and happier with it.
--------------- Personal Note --------------------------
I truly believe that there are a lot of mentally disturbed people out there. 12 years old killing an 11 years old by stabbing her 20 odds time, and when asked he said that he didn't know why he did that. 12 years old for crying out loud. And this happened 5 years ago, in our beloved Malaysia.. If 12 years old is capable of such things... who can say the adults will be any better.
The problem is too many emotion is kept inside. Too many things in the mind. With no way out... Hopefully blogging will help
Labels: blog
A Thumb And The Remaining Four
Summary - Lesson Learnt From Fingers
Yes, that is my hand eheh. The picture actually shows the polite way of pointing direction. The thumb is used instead of the second finger (called pointing finger right?). It is said that symbolically by using the thumb, we will be reminded that even though one finger is pointing at somebody else, the remaining four fingers are actually pointing at us.
Maybe to be funny we can start pointing at people using all ten fingers. Then no fingers will be back-stabbing us hehe. But being funny aside, we really need to check on ourselves before looking into other people's fault or mistake. It is very easy to blame others on things happening to us. For example, a student who is getting bad grades. The first thing the parent usually do is to send him to a tuition class. In my opinion, this had indirectly blamed the failure to the teachers teaching at school. It IS true that there are some cases that the teacher is a bad teacher, but I don't think all teachers in this country is bad. The parent should first check themselves. Are they involved in the child's education. Had they given the proper motivation and maybe describe the importance of education to the child? Tackle these first, and later we can use that ten fingers kay?
Another example -
A man goes to his doctor and says, "I don't think my wife's hearing is as good as it used to be, what should I do?"
The doctor replies, "Try this test to find out for sure. When your wife is in the kitchen doing dishes, stand fifteen feet behind her and ask her a question, if she doesn't respond keep moving closer asking the question until she hears you."
The man goes home and sees his wife preparing dinner. He stands fifteen feet behind her and says, "What's for dinner, honey?"
He gets no response, so he moves to ten feet behind her and asks again.
Still no response, so he moves to five feet. Again, no answer.
Finally he stands directly behind her and says, "Honey, what's for dinner?"
She replies, "For the fourth time, I said CHICKEN! CHICKEN! CHICKEN!
--------------- Personal Note --------------------------
When I first come to KL. That was in 94, I liked to explore the city by foot. So one day, I was planning to go to Sogo, and being new to the place, I asked this teenager the whereabout. He immediately gave me the direction. Go here then go there. I'll try to memorize it and after thanking him, I follow the direction he gave me. To my surprise.. after about 15 minutes of walking, I end up meeting the same guy grinning to his ear. He also don't know where he is. Ceh
Labels: muhasabah
New Item : Tags Link
First of all, I would like to say many thanks to those who tagged me to do certain task. This in a way is an honor, because of all the people you would like to know, you chosed me. Thanks a million.
So I'm introducing a new link at the top menu - tags. That link will redirect you to the tags I've completed. The reason I do it in a separate page is to spare the rest of you who are not interested from having to go through them :). Yes, not all people liked to know the details about the author hehe. Enjoy.. and for those who want to tag me, you are very much welcomed to do so. :)
Labels: New
Allah's Secret
Summary - The 4 secrets of Allah and why they were kept a secret
Of course we cannot tell everything about us. There is such thing that is called secret. Unless of course the secret will solve the problem, then by all mean, share it. Now we do know that everyone has a secret, even Allah.
So what do you think is Allah's secret? Believe me that I did not make this up. I read it in a book long time ago. Obviously the following is rewritten based on memory.
Secret 1 - Lailatul Qadar
For those who may not know, "Lailatul Qadar" is a night appointed in one of the nights of Ramadhan. The night was kept unknown to motivate all muslim to work harder in order to get "Keredhaan Allah" by searching it in all 30 nights or at least the last ten night.
Secret 2 - His Saint
Saint or "Wali Allah" are those whose life are devoted only to Allah. He loved them so much that almost any prayer from them will be granted immediately. Obviously they themselves do not know of their status. Their identity were kept hidden so that we will always respect and treat others kindly. Who knows he/she might be one of them. Do you dare to hurt people loved by Allah?
Secret 3 - Soul
It is mentioned in a hadis (correct me if I'm wrong) that when several people came and asked Rasulullah about the nature of soul, they were told that the soul is Allah's secret. Soul is basically what make us alive and concious. It cannot be the brain or heart because some organism like bacteria have neither and yet still alive. So why does Allah keep this a secret?. It is to make us humble that even though we had explore the whole universe and understand everythings, we will still not understand our own body and how we come to be alive.
Secret 4 - Death
The origin of life is a secret, of course death will be another. But unlike life, death is kept a secret in the manner that nobody know how and when we will die. It's not a surprise that somebody who is so healthy died, if not natural cause, maybe due to accident. So.. as you may have guess it, death is kept a secret to allow us to live our life fully by seizing the day. Death is beyond our control and thus why worry. The same death will also urge us to "memperbanyakkan amal ibadat"(hehe I have no translation for this) as we can die any moment in our life.
There's a saying that "work on your life as if you are going to live forever but "beribadatlah" as if you are going to die tomorrow."
Of course this is just an opinion of the past ulama'. In the end only Allah knows the reason behind all matters
Maybe you guys can add to the reason why such matter is kept a secret. And also can somebody please give me an English word for beribadat? :)
--------------- Personal Note --------------------------
My favorite memory on secret, is when I (during my childhood) was fasting in one Ramadhan. I was 10 or 12 years old at the time. Heheh so as what a child would do on his first time fasting, I cheated by eating the currypuff filling my mother made. To cut things short, my brother, filantera caught me. And so we established that this is a secret between us. Everything was going fine and we had break our fast for the day. Somehow, filantera couldn't resist and spoke to me (in an intentionally-raised voice) - "Banji, mama tak tau lagi rahsia kita kan?"
Obviously my mother interrogate him and my secret is all out in the open. heheh so understandbly I was "rotan" by mother. I know that I get him back after that.. but unfortunately cannot remember what :)
Never Run Away From A Problem, Solve It
Summary - Problems are meant to be solved not hidden hoping it will go away.
Today, one of the machine in the mill had a breakdown. When we had a look, we can see some scratches at the shaft (Actually there's more damage to it, but let make this simple). I then asked "How is this get scratched?" The operator said he know nothing of it and the workshop personnel back him up by saying this is normal. I was surprised at the answer, because damage like that cannot be normal. Something must have cause it. And for the workshop personnel to say it normal means that they've encountered the damage previously but were lazy to follow up and investigate. They just replaced the shaft.
Yes, there is such thing as wear and tear in the industry but I know wear and tear when I see one. This is not wear and tear.
In short, we investigated and solved the problem. The reason I highlighted this is because it a typical practice for us to hide the problem rather than face it. Investigation to find the cause of the damage is very tedious and time consuming, Yes I know. But it had to be done. Or else the problem will keep recurring.
This is not only bound to engineering problem, but to all of our life problem. If we somehow hurt our loved ones' feeling, usually we will just try to apologize or worse just sleep on it, hoping tomorrow everything will be back to normal. This will not solve the problem, instead the problem will accumulate until one time, all hell break loose. Unfortunately for us, relationship is not like a machine where we can just overhaul or get a new one.
So please, if we've hurt our better half's feeling, talk it over. If talking and open up feelings are not a culture in your relationship, start it immediately. You (the man) will not be weak by expressing your feeling, but of course don't be overly emotional. and you (the woman) will be better understood if you speak up your feeling once in a while, but of course as gentle as possible.
--------------- Personal Note --------------------------
There is a phrase taken from Dr. Fadzilah Kamsah talk on relationship in Era on how to persuade your husband to do things around the house. Somehow I remember them. Caution - husband and wife conversation follows...
Wife - Bertuah saya dapat abang ni tau, abg ni baik, suka tolong di dapur.
Husband - Iye? (Hati berbunga2)
Wife - Tapi kan.... kalau abg boleh tolong saya basuh pinggan.. lagi saya terharu.
Husband - (knows already the wife actually want some help with the dishes) Ye la.. I'll do it for you :)
Wife - Tq :)
Labels: problem, Relationship
There Should Be No Other Opinion But Mine - WRONG
Summary - Another mind set that require some change, that "our opinion is the only opinion"
Some of my friends did ask me some questions. I graduated in Chemical Engineering from University of PETRONAS, so why didn't I apply for a job in chemical plant or offshore oil rig. Instead I am working in a palm oil mill. They looked at me as if I had been a failure and that chemical engineering from PETRONAS MUST work in an oil rig, and nothing less.
We Malay, will have a long way to go to have a world class mind if this is the kind of mentality our graduates have.
What in your opinion is the definition of success? It is my believe that the answer is very subjective and it varies from one person to another. So why is it that we have to judge people using our own definition. Our understanding of the word "success" may not be the same way other people understand "success"
Parents in the early years of their children had told them the meaning of success is measured in term of career they will end up. They implanted the idea that successful people are those working as doctors, engineers and lawyers. In a way, this is quite a good method, because it will give the children some direction to work on. But the parents should in time tell the children to find their very own definition of success. please don't raise them believing that if they are not lawyers, engineers or doctors, they are a failure. Don't use the same definition of success to the children. They may not be lawyers but maybe they will become a businessman instead. "Datuk lagi" huhu
Anyway... Success for me is how you achieve what you aim. So what do I achieve with my current job?
- My house is just 1km from my workplace. I have never experience traffic jam, tolls and road accidents (touch wood), I can have breakfast, lunch and tea with my wife everyday (of course dinner also), I can even go back to sleep during my lunch break comfortably on my bed,
- I only answer to one person, which is the mill manager (no politics whatsoever), I knew exactly what should I do to be promoted, in term of requirements etc (I've seen some engineers that have worked so long but canot be promoted simply because no vacancy)
- True that I may not get paid as handsomely as others, but look at what they've been missing. People are given each 24 hours a day, In the end it will all add up. Gain something and loses another.
- The best thing about my work is that I enjoyed it. Isn't this the most important things?
--------------- Personal Note --------------------------
My dad had also tried to suggest our future career. I'm supposed to be a lawyer, My second brother - an architect and my third - a doctor. We have no idea then what the job will require us to do, but it did in a way give us a sense of direction. So I'm not really against parent putting ideas in their children head. Because if not, it may soon be corrupted by fellow friends anyway. It's just that the parents should be open minded and respect the choice their children took (of course only after they were able to know bad from good, "akil baligh")
Weirdest Things You Can See On The Road
Source : Collection from internet
Hey it's Sunday! These are some pictures showing rare things you would see on the road. So word of advice.. Be careful when you're out there, the weirdest things can happen
Fifth Place - Our very own Malaysian's
Fourth Place - This parking method is beyond my comprehension
Third Place - Beat that..
Second Place - Must.. Get.. Home.. Now..
First Place - As long as I'm wearing one..
Introducing Yours Truly
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(Me at a conference in Ipoh)
They say, blogging should be anonymous, (Who's them? I don't know.. I just make it up). Anyway, I believe it depends on the actual purpose of your blogging, if you want to blog about sensitive things, you might as well keep your identity hidden. As for me, my main reason to blog is to share my thoughts and find new friends in the process. And as we know, friends should know each other, at least at some basic level. So this entry is dedicated to introduce myself to all of you. And if there is any further questions, please don't hesitate to ask.
Why banji?
My name is Mohamad Zaki. Banji is actually what my family and friends been calling me. Apparently when I started talking I seemed to refer to myself with that name. It started with Bang Ji and later shorten to banji.
Fact and Figures?
Born on chrismas 1977 in Kedah, I am the eldest of three. My younger brothers are introduced previously by the blognick pocket and filantera. Married to a wonderful woman on August 2006. (erk next month is the first anniversary, any ideas guys?). That should cover the facts. About figure... I have no figure hehe, the weight is steadily increasing though
How about education?
Well, it started off quite beautifully with me going to religious school i.e. Maktab Mahmud in Alor Setar and KISAS in Klang. But since I'm more inclined to engineering, I decided to take my A Level in PPP UiTM (Shah Alam). However due to the recession, they can't send us oversea. I was however offered a place in UTP in Tronoh. It was there I graduated in Chemical Engineering. Even though I' doing engineering, I am still passionate on learning other subjects, psychology, Islam, culture and thus this blog.
Career Wise?
A lot of part time job, which I'm not going into detail. Currently I am working in a palm oil mill in Bahau, Negeri Sembilan. This is my second posting. Previously I was in Kluang Johor. As you may already know, the mill will extract oil and kernel from the fruit, So my main job is actually to optimize the efficiency of the process among other things such as maintenance and administration.
If any of you would want to know better, feel free to drop by. I will gladly give you a grand tour.
Interest?
Hm I define interest as things we would do gladly anytime of the day. So my primary interest would be on internet. I can spend hours stuck like a glue surfing new sites, reading through blogs. It may sound so cliche but I really like to learn new stuff over the internet. I did learn HTML and Javascript totally from the net, quite proud of it also huhu.
My secondary interest would be martial art. I'm fascinated by them and currently I'm planning to enroll in this newly found training here in Bahau. These days, martial arts are more towards the maintenance of health both physically and mentally. Still, I believe people who learn how to self defence had better chance of surviving an attack be it robbery or harassment.
/end
Okay, now that's about it. Now that we're properly introduced... there should be no reason, we can't be friend, right? :)
Labels: biodata
Look East Policy
Summary - A Japanese culture we need to follow
My brother once studied in Japan. And he told me interesting stories about the culture there. Believe me that not all of them is good. But one culture does fascinate me.
"When ever a Japanese eat at a street stall, and if he like the food, he will go meet the chef after he had finished his dinner and say "Your food is so delicious" (Of course in Japanese). The chef will obviously feel happier."
This is one noble culture we should start practising ourselves. Don't be shy to give appreciation if the person deserve it. Do we lose anything when we do that? No, in fact we gain a lot of things; new friends, better services next time and of course a smile.
Our culture however is very different.
"Since we are paying for the service, they were the one who must treat us like king. The chef must come and greet us. If the food is good, maybe we'll come again. But if the food was not good, you just wait!!!"
--------------- Personal Note --------------------------
I actually did apply this once in a while. Usually I will go to the cashier and say "the food is delicious I will definitely come back". The cashier was so surprised she don't know how to respond.
Now aren't we Malay were supposed to be famous for our courtesy (budi bahasa), Why was she so shocked?
Labels: culture
Misunderstanding
Source - Forwarded email
Caller : Hello, can I speak to Annie Wan?
Operator : Yes, you can speak to me.
Caller : No, I want to speak to Annie Wan!
Operator : You are talking to someone! Who is this?
Caller : I'm Sam Wan. And I need to talk to Annie Wan! It's urgent.
Operator : I know you are someone and you want to talk to anyone! But what's this urgent matter about?
Caller : Well... just tell my sister Annie Wan that our brother Noel Wan has involved in an accident. Noel Wan got injured and now Noel Wan is being sent to the hospital. Right now, Avery Wan is on his way to the hospital.
Operator : Look if no one was injured and no one was sent to the hospital, then the accident isn't an urgent matter! You may find this hilarious but I don't have time for this!
Caller : You are so rude! Who are you?
Operator : I'm Saw Lee.
Caller : Yes! You should be sorry. Now give me your name!!
/end
Just some joke, I received. Actually My wife received it and read it to me. figuratively speaking, I roll on the floor laughing.
It strucked me then, misunderstanding is a very common things when it comes to communication. People have it all the time, So will us. So hopefully if I misunderstood any comments or remarks you make while presenting additional ideas to the entries, please excuse me ye... and maybe patiently explained them for the benefit of us all.
Hmm better yet, let us all give each other a break if misunderstanding occur.
Labels: Joke
Two Great Love Quotes
Summary - Two great love quotes, Which one you choose?
Trying to start a fight with your loved ones to get her attention is just so sweet. Good luck Filantera. (For those who have no idea, please refer to previous post's comment) We would do anything for our better half now wont we?
One thing has been puzzling me on this love matter, maybe you guys can give your own opinion on this.
You see, there are two love quotes that I "accidentally" (I can be hopelessly romantic sometime) memorize. The two contradict each other but I love them both.
Love quote #1 - If you want to hate somebody, leave 1% of your heart for love because who knows, the one you hate may someday be the one you will love the most.
If you want to love somebody, leave 1% of your heart for hate because who knows, the one you love may someday be the one you will hate the most
- This may be true at one point. When the person you love the most hurt you, somehow the pain is multiplied thousands times. And when suddenly an event happen that make you hate him such as cheated, used etc, the pain will be so extreme it is impossible to endure.
- It's better to have that 1% of hate so that maybe it will not hurt so much then
- This also make sense. If you love someone with all you heart and it turns out she's not the one and she dump you, you'll be hurt like dying but with time you will get over it and move on.
- But what if you did find the one person destined for you, the most perfect companion for you and you throw her aside because of the fear of getting hurt, and she's gone. Would you forgive yourself? Ever?
--------------- Personal Note --------------------------
I was just been told that tomorrow 19/7 is actually a public holiday for us in Negeri Sembilan. Wow.. either I'm just that ignorance or I'm such that good a worker. By the way, as always I will be going to KL this evening and visit my dear mother there. She is now 50 years old (born alongside Malaysia) but still she won't give up her job. I guess she's just that independent and tough. Anyway, as always I will be seeing you via email. So please come and say hi... it will be the high of my day.
As for my mother, there's no question that I love her 100% and I would die for her (seriously)
Labels: quote, Relationship
Mistake We Did During Arguing
Summary - Another attempt to change our mindset and argue effectively
Presented are two sketch of how people argue. A husband, Habi and his wife, Waifi are arguing on who will take their son, Sani to the dentist.
Scenario 1
Habi - Who should bring our son to the dentist tomorrow?
Waifi - Why are you looking at me?
Habi - I'm just trying to discuss this, who will bring Sani to the dentist tomorrow (with a raised voice)
Waifi - why don't you just volunteer doing it. Be a gentleman la
Habi - So when it comes to this, it must be always me. You were sometime so selfish you know (hoping his wife dont hear that)
Waifi - I heard that, you called me selfish? how dare you. It's not that I didn't do anything for him. And when it comes to this you didn't even offer to take him.
Habi - And you think I am just a "tunggul"? didn't do anything for Sani? Well whatever.
Waifi - Whatever
Habi - Fine!!
Waifi - Fine!!
Scenario 2
Habi - Who should bring our son to the dentist tomorrow?
Waifi - (sigh) Do we really need to?
Habi - Hm I guess.. So how?
Waifi - Ok let's focus here. Are you busy tomorrow?
Habi - Apparently yes, I have a meeting with my boss regarding the estimate preparation for next year. You?
Waifi - Same here, there's a work I'm way behind schedule and I need to finish it ASAP. So maybe the day after?
Habi - hm I'll try to change the appointment. How about weekend? both of us can go. And you can be the calming mother while I laugh at his pain Muahahaha
Waifi - You are evil... Weekend's good for me,
Habi - Now where were we? hehe
/end scenario
Believe it or not, almost all argument happened in our life fall under scenario 1. This is another mindset we need to change.
When arguing/discussing, don't attack the person, but attack the topic argued/discussed.
Old news? hehe yes you might think so, but please see for yourself, when there's an argument or discussion. You can see clearly that when A is presenting an idea, and B is calling it rubbish, and A who knows that B might be right, will DEFENSIVELY react. He will take that critics personally even though B meant it for the benefit of all.
However, it is almost always B is the one who first attack A personally so if :
- you are A - take a deep breath, see if there is any truth in B's critics, acknowledge it and take what you can use
- you are B - Good manner while giving negative comments is always appreciated, make it constructive and unless you have better idea to offer, it is always better to remain silent
Even though I know all this, there will always a stir in the my feeling when somebody attack me personally. A few months back, I was in the meeting and I came up with some ideas to basically improve the efficiency of the mill. The "a bit more senior" colleague of mine then said that I'm still new to the mill (I was just transfered here 1 year ++ ago) and that he knew best. (Sigh) The fact that I'm still new is irrelevant as long as the ideas are concerned. I however proceed with my renovation and Alhamdulillah, I had reduced the stone content of kernel produced by about 1.5% which is a lot. Yey!
New Items : Highlight link
I have put up a link to the updated information on the Darul Izzah Orphanage Charity, to be held on 11/8/07. The objective is to highlight it to those visitting the blog and hopefully those who were interested to go will be able to get updated information.
So see you there..
ps - Later the link will be replaced to highlight other events or interesting entries. :)
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Did Allah Created Evil? NO!! Here's Why
Source : Forwarded Email
Article rewritten based on memory
One of the most popular question about God is why He created evil. As we know, everything there is, is created by Him. So that raise the question, why He created criminals, war, and satan himself. Allow me to explain.
First of all, the mind of people asking this question is flawed to begin with. They believe in duality, meaning there is good and evil, there is hot and cold, there is good god and evil god. This is WRONG!!!! Duality is WRONG!!
The truth is, there is no good and evil. The only things exist is just good, not so good, and not good at all. Let me give you an example. In physics, heat is proven to exist and measurable, but there is just no such thing as coldness. We can have superheat, megaheat, or no heat which is -273.15 Celcius (this is where theoretically atom stops vibrating), but we can't go to any temperature below this. Why? simply because there is no such thing as coldness. If not, it will be able to go below the -273.15 Celcius.
Coldness is only a word we use to describe the absence of heat. We cannot measure cold because cold is not an entity like heat, it's just the absence of heat.
I tried to use air condition as an example, but I found the explanation is a bit more complicated, so let me just highlight other examples that may clear things up
- Light exist, given out by the sun, but there is no such thing as darkness existing. Darkness is only a word to describe the absence of light
- Noise exist, we hear them all the time, but there is no such thing as silence. Silence is only a word to describe the absence of noise.
In the Holy Quran also stated, that at one time, Iblis was the holiest of all creatures. But due to his pride not wanting to accept Adam as Khalifah, he turns bad. And that he himself swear to corrupt mankind for all eternity.
All this explained already 1400 years ago.
We watched too many tv. That's why the concept of duality is very familiar in us. One of my favorite tales are those involving Zeus, Hercules etc. There are good gods and evil gods. They are so fun to watch with all the adventure. A more recent tv series would like Charmed, where there is even one character know as "The Source of All Evil". If that's not evil, I don't know what is hehe. (For the record, I love Charmed so much.. ok now you can hate me :p)
Featured in Prasasti July 2007
Very recently, I was told by Miss nur_za, an assistant editor of an E-Magazine:Prasasti, that my article was used in their magazine for the July Edition under Featured Blogger column.
I was actually quite surprise since this is the first time in my entire life, an article written is printed in a magazine. (it is not actually printed since it is an E magazine, but you should get it). So do excuse me being very happy about it.
The E Magazine is actually very new, but for those who would want to have a look,
Download Here
The article is at page 42. Even though the layout make the article very hard to read, I don't care... I'm there hehe
p.s. Maybe I should start thinking of writing professionally to magazines hihi what do you guys think?
Labels: Miscellaneous
Real Kungfu
So there's no other choice? and you still need to continue the fight, learn from this masters
Real Kungfu in real life.
It's Funday! These are some pictures I received via forwarded emails. Enjoy your weekend :)
And some people fall from a king size bed..
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The divine method of studying
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Let your weapon be one with you.. in this case your bicycle
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At first I thought it was timber, apparently it was garbage, but still wow!
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Nobody exempted from learning the art of balancing, 7 months old or 70 years old.
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Tara!!! You will be like her if you work hard. Notice the water on top of the ball?
You Are Allowed Two Days Only
So do you guys know any Zulkifli Zainon (Bob)? Last time I heard he used to work in a restaurant near to The Mines. It sucks when friends were separated, isn't it?
Correct me if I'm wrong, but if I'm not mistaken that there is one hadith which generally means as follow :
"If two muslims get into a fight with each other and they end up didn't speak to each other, they will have to break the silence on the third day or face the wrath of Allah"
Now I'm not going to analyze the hidden meaning of the hadith because that will require special knowledge like "Sanat" etc. I'm only interested in highlighting the beauty of Islam clearly embedded in it.
Can we all agree that for us to get into a fight or argument, it must be because of something we truly believe in? Obviously once we believe in something, we will defend it to the end. Islam apparently had anticipated this and lay down the ground rule that by the third day, both must say hi to each other irregardless of the different opinion. Both then will put aside their difference and reconcile solely for the greater purpose which is "Keredhaan Allah".
Now isn't that just beautiful?
What fascinates me most is not the fact those two be friends again. But the way Islam teaches us that greater purpose MUST always be "Keredhaan Allah". We will always have different opinion on things. And if we are going to fight any person who oppose our stand, it will be "World of Warcraft" all day long. Very tiring.
So what if the other person didn't know about the hadith, YOU DO and you've done your part. Congratulation!! That is not an easy thing to do and you've done it.
Hm.. listen, listen, the world is more peaceful now, don't you think?One day of peace after two days of war is not so bad right? right? :)
The Story
Referring to yesterday's post, I was telling you a piece of my childhood memory. Today, I'm going to tell you the whole story. I'm not sure what year was it, but I was definitely either 14 or 15 years old. It was Ramadhan and my brothers, a friend and myself went to the mosque to pray Solat Terawih. Maybe it's more proper if I introduce them to you. Both my brothers are pocket and filantera. That's was of course their blogger name. The friend is Zulkifli Zainon or better known as Bob.
THE HISTORY
One night, when we were returning home from the mosque, Bob's sister - Netty and her friends were walking far in front of us but still within visible distance. So that night, when the girls reached a cemetery area, suddenly, a few boys jump on them from the nearby trees. The girls were so frightened and scream. Since we are quite far at the back, we can only shouted at the boys and they just ran away. We cannot chase them of course, with our stomache full of the "more" feast we just had hehe. ("More" pronunce as More+Ray). We thought that was it, but apparently we thought wrong, the boys were planning to seek revenge on us the next day.
THE NEXT DAY
as always, we returned home, all four of us. The girls was now closer to our group. Suddenly we realized we had been followed by the boys from yesterday. There were about 7 to 8 of them. From the back, we can hear they tried to start a fight by saying nasty words (which I'm not going into details here).
I can still remember, our mood that night had changed and it seemed that even our walking style from the lazily sliding, changed to the warrior like walking from Hang Tuah movies hahah. We kept quiet the whole time. In our mind, we know for certain that the fight will surely take place. We were really outnumbered so it will be worse if we fight in the dark. We need some light.
THE CEMETERY
The only light available is in front of the cemetary. We reached there and instead of confronting them, we somewhat wait for them just beneath the light. My youngest brother, filantera was only in primary school then so we sent him off with the girls to the girls' house. Hoping very hard that my beloved filantera would know what to do, maybe asked some adults to come and sort our fight. So off he went.
The nasty words uttered were still thrown at us continuously. But the funny thing is they didn't take any move to start the fight themselves, We can hear the sound of iron clinging to each other what we then assume are weapons such as screw driver and chain. Imagine us waiting there, heads down just waiting for the fight to start or the help arrived from Filantera's quest.
THE TURNING POINT
suddenly, my second brother - pocket, fall down and start screaming like mad. And I mean really screaming.. as if he was possessed. It is the cemetary. Both of us, Bob and I was shocked and had to hold him as strong as we can because my brother had seriously gone crazy, screaming and trying to go to the boys.
And the boys who had been following us from the start... was either shocked with my brother's screaming or just plain shocked, they ran away to all direction... believe me, even running into us. ahhahaha.
After about 30 seconds of hysteria, my brother calms down and guess what, he said that it is all just an act to scare the boys away. We were laughing so hard that night. seriously amazed with his idea.
THE ONE WHO'S "HARAPKAN PAGAR, PAGAR BUKAK PINTU PAGAR"
We then went to Bob's house, and guess what, my youngest brother - filantera, was actually drinking hot milo served by the girls. He totally forgot his mission. hahaha.....
THE END
Labels: appreciation, Miscellaneous
What Doesn't Kill You, Make You Stronger
Reading one of my friends blog, Noushy's post titled "You did", it reminds me of one saying (I did mention this in her comment) - What doesn't kill you make you stronger
Don't laugh just yet but I learnt the lesson from that phrase way before I even learn English. It's from a famous comic "Mutiara Naga". Bear with me for 10 seconds as I described the comics to you. It is about this warrior race - The Saiya. If a Saiyan is beaten up to the point of dying, and he survived, he will recover and be MUCH STRONGER than before.
So is this true? I believe it is
They will be time when our spirit will be tested. Maybe our loved ones were sexually harassed in front of us, or our nation were under attack. Are we ready for that? It's true, bravery is not always about sacrificing ourselves. It is better describe as doing the right thing when the moment demands it.
Don't laugh just yet but I learnt the lesson from that phrase way before I even learn English. It's from a famous comic "Mutiara Naga". Bear with me for 10 seconds as I described the comics to you. It is about this warrior race - The Saiya. If a Saiyan is beaten up to the point of dying, and he survived, he will recover and be MUCH STRONGER than before.
So is this true? I believe it is
- Whenever we were infected with a disease when we were children, and we survived it, usually we will have immunity to that disease
- A friend got divorced, and heart-broken, everything seems meaningless until she realize her children needed her the most. And she suddenly become fiercely independent naturally and the only motto she relied on is just "bring it on" (true story)
- A soldier in Perang Uhud (if I am not mistaken) carry the flag of Islam to war, and had had one of his hand cut, did he leave the flag behind? no!, he used his other hand motivating fellow soldiers, not at the back of the line but way in front of all soldiers. (true story)
- An entrepreneur working his way up until suddenly his own friends stab him in the back and continue squeezing everything from him until he had absolute nothing. Suicide had been in his head. When he suddenly realize, there's poorer people out there, drinking water from the drain after screened with their own shirt. He pull himself together and work until his success now is legendary. (true story)
They will be time when our spirit will be tested. Maybe our loved ones were sexually harassed in front of us, or our nation were under attack. Are we ready for that? It's true, bravery is not always about sacrificing ourselves. It is better describe as doing the right thing when the moment demands it.
Are we ready to die for what we believe in?
--------------- Personal Note --------------------------
This is another true story happened to me when I was 15 or 16. My brothers, a friend and I were walking back from solat Terawih. It was quite late. To cut things short, there is a group of boys actually wait for us and they had some history with us and now they wanted to beat us. They were actually escorting us, with a few at the front and a few at the back, while uttering nasty words to us. We kept walking until we finally stop under a street light all four of us waiting for them. We didn't say a word and try to look as serious as possible. It was about 5 to 10 minutes, and still they didn't take any action.
to be continued tomorrow... quite a lengthy story :)
--------------- Personal Note --------------------------
This is another true story happened to me when I was 15 or 16. My brothers, a friend and I were walking back from solat Terawih. It was quite late. To cut things short, there is a group of boys actually wait for us and they had some history with us and now they wanted to beat us. They were actually escorting us, with a few at the front and a few at the back, while uttering nasty words to us. We kept walking until we finally stop under a street light all four of us waiting for them. We didn't say a word and try to look as serious as possible. It was about 5 to 10 minutes, and still they didn't take any action.
to be continued tomorrow... quite a lengthy story :)
Labels: motivation, spirit
See You There?
If you notice, there is one tag for charity affecting the whole blogosphere. I believe writing the memes for all bloggers will be a piece of cake, since we are doing such things all the time. But actually how many tried to promote the event this idham (the organizer) is working on?
So this entry is dedicated to invite all my fellow friends to be there and do our little part for the benefit of the orphan there. I will definitely be there. The details are as follows, (for more information, please check the originator's blog)
Event : "Bloggers bring rainbows to DIO (Darul Izzah Orphanage)"
Date of event : 11th August 2007 (Saturday)
Venue : Darul Izzah Orphanage, Bandar Baru Bangi
Planned activities : magic show, clown, treasure hunt, sukaneka" and of course lunch
Email to confirm going - idham_blog@yahoo.com
- please indicate the number of pax in your party
Still looking for :
- volunteer for project manager (I'm a bit worried here)
- volunteer to do printing and binding of all memes (cost supported)
- volunteer to organize party games
- able clowns and magician
Will update the details. So how many of you guys are going? Let this be our little gatherin just as well :)
To honor both PuteriEzza and Sharze who did tag me. Here is the memes completed
1. A person is only as good as the decision he made
2. Friendship is always a good thing to have, bad friends are not
3. To love is to love .. period!
4. Money makes me rich (financially)
5. I miss wake up in the morning with only one purpose, play and play
6. My way of saying I care is by saying I care, why should it be so vague?
7. I try to spread love and happiness by all means
8. Pick the flowers when there is flowers to pick and of course it's legal to do so
9. To love someone is to expect nothing but gives everything, and not the other way around
10. Beauty is never as clear as black and white
11. When I was thirteen, what I remember the most was , waiting at the bus stop 6.30am counting the time for red light to turn green
12. When I was twenty one, I remember it's 1998, guess my age now?
13. I am most happy when the VIP in my life is happy
14. Nothing makes me happier than being loved by my VIPs
15. If I can change one thing, I will change the one thing immediately
16. If smiles were available in shops then I will buy none
17. Wouldn't it be nice if we could do nice things to other people
18. If you want to grow up then you have to start acting like one
19. Money is not everything but it is always good to have some
20. The most touching moments I have experienced is when I was told that my brothers and I will be separated
21. I smile when she smile
22. When I am happy, I buy myself drinks (Milo Ais)
23. If only I don't have to sleep, then probably I can finished this book
24. The best thing I did yesterday was watching movie with the mrs by my side
25. If I ever write a book, I will give it this title,"555 Where Ideas Jotted Down"
26. One thing I must do before I die is "Dua Kalimah Shahadat"
No other bloggers tagged intentionally
Labels: charity, gathering, tag
A Personal Letter For You - The Conclusion
First of all, I would like to thank all my good friends who assisted me in this humble research of mine. Some even send me messages via friendster :). Appreciate all the help and only Allah can repay your kindness.
A question was asked, whether or not the letter I write describe you perfectly and this is to be answered in term of percentage. 15 friends participated and the average percentage of all of their answer is 74.67%
A better way to describe it is that out of 4 person asked, 3 would say it describe them 100%.
I obviously don't know you. so how come some of you totally connect with the letter? Here's why
1) The letter was written FOR you
- Firstly, it is because you believed that the letter was totally written for you. And that I am your best friend in real life and know you by heart. Once you have establish this in your mind, it is always easier for the mind to associate what I wrote with yourself.
- This had been widely used in the whole world. The best example would be the horoscope. People are categorized according to their DOB with mythical creature as a symbol. This subconciously had opened our mind that everything said about that particular group (capricorn, sagitarius etc) is very true. People sometimes follow the advice given by the horoscope religiously.
- Do try yourself, read ALL the horoscope, with an open mind... don't you think all advice and description do seem true at one point?
- Most importantly, I would like to stress that everyone and I mean everyone is given the same package of emotion. Everyone at one point in his life will experience anger, frustration, loneliness, boredom, happy, hypocrite. What ever feeling exist in the dictionary (good or bad) is already included in the package. The difference are just maybe the experience associated and the intensity of the feeling.
- Some live their life with the feeling anger buried deep down in their heart, some shows them once a while, some was walking with the word "anger" written in the forehead. So everybody can be described as angry.
- "So? what's your point?", you may asked... My point is this - We can be seen as a very social kind of person with friends around anytime of the day, but deep down we SUFFER / ENJOY our feeling alone. The truth is, we are never alone. and don't ever think that nobody will understand you. You must understand yourself first.
- Let say, you want to share and describe the sweet taste of a banana to your African friend, you must first taste the banana before you describe it. Otherwise you will think that nobody really know a banana.
- Do you know that almost all suicide case in the whole world began with the thought of being completely alone and that nobody will understand him/her.
--------------- Personal Note --------------------------
I suddenly remember the movie "Buli" played by my favorite actor Afdlin Shauki. In the movie, the doctor (Nasha Aziz) said "being a psychologist in Malaysia is very hard. People here don't like to admit that they have a problem psychologically." So it's not a surprise, children for no apparent reason was killed and charred remains were thrown away to four places (check the news for more info) nowadays. I pray the person who did this be caught and cut into 4 pieces.
On a happier note, one scene in the movie did bring back the smile on me.
Patient : (dibalut seluruh badannya) Tapi doktor saya demam je
Doctor : Takpe kite balut dulu
:)
A Personal Letter For You
I have an idea and in order to present it to you, I will need your help. Can you please help me with this one thing?
First of all, I want you to believe that what I'm writing / typing right now is meant for you. No one else but you. Just imagine that I am writing a letter to be sent to you. Close your eyes for 5 seconds and convince yourself that we are actually best friends in real life and that the following paragraph is written to you. Ready? Open your eyes (which is a pretty weird request since your eyes were closed heheh)
Hi! This is banji and I've been asked to describe something about you. Hm where should I start? You may not be aware but people around you DO care about you. They sometime seem to be occupied with other things but seriously they think about you all the time.
You sometimes were left at the end of the day confused. So many things to do and so many things to decide. Life can be not fair for you sometime when other people seem to live their life exactly the way you dream yours. You are so confused that sometimes you feel both strong and weak at the same time, so happy and yet nobody actually know the screaming inside. It feels like you will always wonder whether anybody else out there is feeling the same thing, or are you just alone here.
/end paragraph
So my question is, do you think what I said about you is correct? For those that participate, kindly tell me how much percentage do you think is correct? 100% for absolutely describing you and 0% for dead wrong. You can provide the answer to me at the comment section, shoutbox or even email. Anonymous answer will also be appreciated.
I will explain the experiment tomorrow based on the feedback I received. By all means, if you can come up with a conclusion to this experiment, please share it here kay.
Labels: emotion, experiment, Idea, Mind
Sunday Joke on Management
Source - Forwarded Email
On walking into the factory, the Managing Director noticed a young guy leaning against the wall, doing nothing. He approached the young man and calmly said to him, "How much do you earn?"
The young man was quite amazed that he was asked such a personal question, he replied, none the less, "I earn RM2000 a month, Sir. Why?"
Without answering, the MD took out his wallet and removed RM6000 cash and gave it to the young man and said, "Around here I pay people for working, not for standing around looking pretty! Here is your 3 months salary, now GET OUT and don't come back".
The young man turned around and was quickly out of sight.
Noticing a few onlookers, the MD said in a very upset manner, "And that applies for everybody in this company!!".
He approached one of the onlookers and asked him, "Who's the young man that I just fired?"
He replied "He was the pizza delivery man, Sir...!!"
/end story
Lesson learnt
- Know your staff, You might save yourself three months of their salary
- But for an MD, it is impossible to recognize all the staff, So, do ask for details before making any decision.
--------------- Personal Note --------------------------
One of my job is giving out salary to the workers in the mill. For your information, the salary was given cash, and it is very important for me to know the workers by face. Hm during my early days here when I just got transfered from Johor, I don't recognize any of the workers. But I have to recognize each of them ASAP or I may wrongly give the salary to someone else. So what I did, is to call the Union Leader there and let him introduce the workers to me. I will take my time chat a bit with each of them, trying conciously to repeat their name throughout the 15 second conversation. Then for the rest of the week, when ever I go down to the mill, I will greet each of them by name. Guess what.. I remember all 80 plus workers name in 2 weeks :)
People like it when you call them by name. hm do you guys have any other tips I can use to remember the name?
Labels: Joke, management, tips
Open Your mouth.. And Say Wahhhhh
Just a few days back I read in The Star about the newest scientific finding about yawning. I tried to find the source in thestar online but to no avail. So I checked the google and this is apparently where the news come from. Click Here.
Just to summarize - Previously we thought that yawning is a sign of sleepiness. Then there's that theory that yawning is supposed to supply us with extra volume of oxygen to be supplied to the brain, making us more awake. The new finding however said that yawning is actually meant to cool down the brain temperature for it to be awake.
Now why do I find this interesting? Because finally the biggest mystery in my life was explained which is why yawning is contagious. You do realize that, when ever another person yawn, it is almost surely we will yawn anytime soon. I've been wondering for so long already. According to the study, contagious yawn maybe evolved to help groups remain vigilant against danger, for example taking guard duty at night time. (Just want to share with you)
The funny thing is.... human have been around for what? thousands of years? and we still haven't figure out why we yawn. Theories arised but they are constantly challenged and corrected. We just have no idea.
In the end, it is proven that yawning is for our own good. It has always been. Maybe... just maybe, we should always think positive to those thing that we don't understand (yet) and beyond our control such as nightmare, menopause (not that I have one :p) etc.
Amazingly they researched yawning... I wonder what else we should research on?
--------------- Personal Note --------------------------
A friend of mine actually taught me to yawn everytime my lense is dry. This was when I started to use lense way years before. It actually work. Whenever I stuck in a heavily-air-conditioned mall, my eyes will get dry. That's how I solved that problem. So if you see a handsome man walking in a shopping mall yawning all the time, it is very high possibility that it's me. So be nice hehe :)
07/07/07 7.07 am & 7 second...
Tomorrow is 07/07/07 which only happen once in a hundred year. Around the globe people are getting married that day assuming luck which come with the number will have some effect on their marriage.
In my opinion, there is no such thing as lucky number. Remember when we were in primary school? The teacher introduce number with those "biji saga". The number 3 is just the addition of three "biji saga". In short, all numbers are related and are meaningless otherwise. 3 will never exist if there are no number 2 and number 1. Hopefully you can understand me up to here. If all are related then obviously all number should have equal luckiness and importance
So you may say, "let it be lah, for fun only". The problem arise especially for us muslim. Let me give you an example to illustrate. If tomorrow I decide to enter a competition advertised in the newspaper on page 7 and I somehow win the contest and received RM7000 cash prize. What do you think the first thing that will come up to my mind? Obviously I will assume the luck in number 7 is the reason I win. This is where it's dangerous because this is a clear case of "syirik". What ever happens are all by the Will of Allah.
Non-religiously, believing in number had also affected other area. For example, in Japan, they actually build buildings with no level 13 because of the fear of it. Can you believe that they even concreted the whole level. This is clearly not a wise decision (financially)
However some of the couple who get married tomorrow may do so not because of the luck but to help the couple expecially the man to remember their anniversary later on. Man does have the tendency to forget anniversary. I'm not sure whether it's biological or not but do give us a chance kay eheh :)
--------------- Personal Note --------------------------
I don't believe in lucky numbers or date. But I do believe I am lucky enough to be born on my birthday. It's 25th December.... Lucky not because it's christmas but because every year I can have the day all to myself without having to work.
Anybody else have stories related to number that can be shared? Perhaps being born on 29th February. For him / her birthday is only every 4 years :)
Please Help Me Decide..
Hi guys... One of my good friend Pawana Malam had raised one question I find interesting. First I thank her for the comment, as it will help me to further improve the blog. Thanks a million.
If you don't mind, please advise me on your preference between the two, which one you prefer?
Quoting from comments of "New Items : Table of Contents
Pawana Malam :
hello banji,
eemmm, if u write less, to me, the excitement will deteriorate too...
Banji :
Pawana Malam - Finally someone asked. Thank you for that... :) I understand what you trying to highlight. It concern me too. But I did it actually intentionally. As you can see, the topic here sometimes are quite heavy. So I am actually giving some space to maybe digest or at least review some topics.
So my question to fellow friends... which would you prefer? Everyday with one discussable topic or my current style of posting (which is giving some space to breath, review and maybe come up with a few brilliant ideas to share).
/end quote
Seriously I have no problem with either one as I love writing very much.. :) please advise.
Labels: survey
New Items : Table of Contents
I have added a new link to the table of content for this blog. It is located at the top row under the name "Contents". Hopefully this will help us in navigating through the previous post easier.
Actually I'm interested in a Javascript for TOC which is currently quite popular. But it is always my intention to reduce the loading time on this blog. So I will try to maintain a minimum amount of script.
Anything else I can do to improve this humble blog? Feel free to highlight them to me ye
How To "Forget" and Move On
A friend had written in her blog asking advice on how to move on after a break up with her ex-boyfriend. Many had advised her to start a new hobby, do things to distract her from thinking about him etc. In the end, she said that all those ideas have not worked and only making it worse.
In my opinion, she had approached the problem wrongly. In case you're reading this. These are the most important steps you must do first.
- The problem with people nowadays is we don't really know what we want. We said we want to forget the ex-boyfriend and move on but the truth is we are the happiest when thinking about him. So ask yourself, do you really want to move on or not? Establish this first or any attempt to forget him will be useless
- This is also where people usually go wrong. We cannot force our mind to forget. It will only remember even clearer. Take sleeping for example, try forcing yourself to sleep. You will end up stay awake the entire night. So step no 2 is to stop trying to forget. Stop immediately!
- So what do you do now that you stop trying to forget. You learn from the experience. If your boyfriend is abusive, list down how to identify abusive people for your future reference. Learn everything you can from it and (THIS IS IMPORTANT) whenever his image come up to your mind, reanalyze your experience again. Do take note that this is a very difficult process. It is always much easier and happier to just day dreaming of him proposing to you but you should avoid this.
- Remember, whenever you start thinking about him, NO day dreaming and start listing down lessons. Your mind will slowly associates the memory with "listing down lesson" and hate it so much that it will automatically stop the memory from ever resurface again
I personally love to listen to people's problem when they talk to me about it. I usually prefer not to offer any advice but just an ear. After people let out all their problem verbally, they will usually have a clearer picture of their problem and its solution.
I personally love to listen to people's problem. It usually will enrich me with the experience without having to go through them.
p.s. - How about you guys? How do you move on after a break like that?
Labels: Mind, problem, Relationship
The Promise of a Malay
Assalamualaikum guys.. As you may be aware, I just returned from my "Balik Kampung" trip to Kedah. My bus was scheduled to arrive at 12.00 am. So, as always the mrs and I came a bit earlier at around 11.45pm. When I approached the counter, the attendant told me that there may be a bit delay to the bus arrival as the bus just arrived in Alor Setar. I fully understand that. It's very hard to organize such dynamic arrangements. So I asked her when would the bus arrived here. She told me very convincingly that by 12.45am, the bus will arrive. "That's fair" I thought to myself, so both of us help ourself with late supper and chat to kill the time.
By 1am, the bus was still no where to be seen. I again approached the counter and asked the whereabout. To my surprise, the girl just smile and said "Biasalah, janji melayu.. katanya tak jalan lagi dari alor setar" I was really shocked. My wife was so furious she claim want to kick the poor flower vase at the place. (which I doubt will break and will only hurt her leg heheh)
So what is this "Janji Melayu"? Yes, I'm familiar with the term. It is when we promise to do something at a specific time but almost very sure will not follow the time.
Why do "Melayu" associated with this type of attitude? Are we proud having this attitude? Where nobody will take our words seriously..Where our words actually is worthless.
For those who read this, Malay or Non-Malay, can I assume that you are at least have some interest in improving yourself? We need to change this term "Janji Melayu". Forget about everyone else. We are the one who must first change. When we promise something... Let us make sure that the promise is well kept.
If we say, tomorrow at 7am, we will wait at someplace, let the other person know that, that WILL SURELY HAPPEN. To change a culture is not an easy thing to do. But we can surely change our attitude. Once that changed, show other people the importance of that change. Don't aim to change the attitude of the whole company or university just yet. Aim small. Maybe with your friends.
It is my believe that we are given "akal" to guide the rest of our organs (~hands, leg, eye, and especially mouth) to do good. If our mouth utter words that is worthless. What's the difference between us and those without "akal"
--------------- Personal Note --------------------------
Do excuse today's entry which is a bit personal and emotional. Can you blame me? I fully understand that sometime the unexpected happens. And sometime, we can plan all we want but it is always up to Him in the end. I'm just very frustrated when promise now doesn't carry any value at all and they expect me to accept that. Oh ya, the bus arrived at 2.00 am
Labels: culture, Experience
Apology
I'm writing this at 6.39 am on the bus going back to kl. And I'm afraid there will still be no post today. See you guys tomorrow kay.
In the meantime, on a personal note I'm not happy with this bus, it's scheduled to pick us up at 12 am, but it was late by 2 hours! Hate it when it happens