When To Voice Out Your Inner Voice
A good friend of mine, Ms Intan had previously asked my opinion on a subject which is "When to give advice?". Well this is what I think.
However as always, there will be few factors one need to consider before giving any advice.
- Must be very sure of the advice. Don't advise anyone to walk in the dark, when you are not sure where the cliff is
- It is always better if the giver practise the advice first before advising others. However we must know that the advice will always be more important than the giver. A drug addict advises us not to use drug is a good advice. And we should take it irregardless of the giver condition.
- If the person ask for advice then it is almost an obligation for you to help. Who else will help?
- However if the person clearly say no advice needed. we should know what to do. Some people prefer to settle their problem their way, and this is a good quality.
- Sometime pople asked for help, but when we offered the help or advice it's like "curahkan air kedaun keladi". He expect us to agree and back him up. Truthfully, I always get annoyed with this people. And I usually just back away.
- It is very important that you believe your advice is beneficial or at least better. Friend A is giving advice to B about how smoking will make him look more cool. Obviously you disagree, (advice against smoking is always better).. it would be wrong if you don't stated your stand there.
- The advice must be beneficial to the receiving person, not to you. For example, your best friend has a crush on a girl, and he asked for your advice. once you see the girl, you decided to sabotage this friend of yours so that you will have better chance with her. you then advise your friend to run her with a motorcycle... that's wouldn't just be non-ethical... that's plain evil.
- The correct method in giving advice
- How to decide right from left - Making decision part 1
- Or you can do this - Making decision part 2
- Last option to choose an option - Making decision part 3
There are millions of reason why we should not interfere. But how do we live our life when we see a child learning to smoke in front of us.. and all we do is look the other way. Aren't we all related?